I've ignored this until now, but polyamory has been all over the discourse lately. Why? Is there any evidence that polyamory has increased?
I took a look around to find out. Scott Hocker pointed me to Bedbible.com, a site that publishes "product reviews of sex toys and personal lubricants that have been personally tested"—as well as some obviously bogus charts that we can ignore aside from their amusement value. Shadi Hamid points me to Google Trends, which shows no increase in interest at all except on Valentine's Day this year:
Dr. Russell Moul suggests it's because of a recent book, Why It's OK to Not Be Monogamous, by Justin Clardy, a professor of philosophy at Santa Clara University. But Clardy has been droning on about polyamory for years, with books and papers such as Love Hates Us; Polyamory in Black; Marriage and Black Polyamorous Non-being; and Monogamies, Non-Monogamies, and the Moral Impermissibility of Intimacy Confining Constraints. The book "situates ethical non-monogamy within the Black feminist tradition of progressive Black sexual politics [and] analyzes how marriage and monogamy are partially responsible for discrimination and social marginalization that African American polyamorists encounter across a range of social institutions in a post-civil rights era America."
Tyler Austin Harper points to another book: "At the center of the recent discussions is More: A Memoir of an Open Marriage, by Molly Roden Winter, an unsparing account of a polyamorous life." But that's all it is.
Jennifer Wilson at the New Yorker points me to yet another book, American Poly: A History, by Christopher Gleason, a lecturer at Georgia State University. The Amazon summary says "there has clearly been a growing interest" in polyamory—though it mentions no supporting evidence—and notes, "In the 1950s and 1960s it surprisingly emerged among libertarian science fiction writers." I think this is code for Robert Heinlein, but maybe there's more to it. In any case, this is a history of polyamory, and includes no evidence of growing popularity aside from the fact that people are chattering about it.
An article in Psychology Today from a couple of years ago says the US is now in its third wave of polyamory and "its current wave is the most socially significant and widespread by far." Young people, it says, use it as an adaptive strategy to deal with longer lifespans, the internet, climate change, poor job prospects, blah blah blah.
Anything else? The dating site Tinder, well known for its dedication to scholarly rigor, reports that 41% of Gen Z are "open" to non-monogamous relationships.
Are you bored yet? I am. As near as I can tell, there is precisely zero evidence of a rise in polyamory among the young or anyone else. It's getting talked about just because it's getting talked about. A self-licking ice cream cone, so to speak. Let me know if anyone has any actual evidence to the contrary.